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Yet once you reveal enough information, it’s easy for someone to find your social media accounts, which might contain less flattering photos, more intimate personal information, and information about exes, family members, co-workers, bosses, and friends, all of which a random person on OKCupid has no business knowing.When we engage in this, we don’t call it “stalking;” we call it “vetting.” We want to know as much as possible about this stranger before agreeing to meet them in person.
Isn’t that the goal they sell you with names like Match, OKCupid, and e Harmony?
You’re not a bad person for hoping to find a tall, wealthy man or a young, slender woman, but in the end, you’re looking for an ideal partnership, not a person with an ideal exterior.
And we are much better about this when interacting in person than when interacting online.
That’s a sad realization to come to after spending 0 on a membership and hundreds of dollars more on first dates that came to nothing, but after two years, I’m ready to call it quits. Many of us have found true love on dating sites, but many more of us haven’t and probably never will.
It doesn’t mean we’re bad people or even bad partners; it just means online dating isn’t the right way for people like us to find partners who are for us. You’d think online dating would be a perfect way for introverts to meet new people, but it isn’t.Dating sites aren’t for people with too much free time; they’re for people with too little free time, people who have no way of finding the right person except on a dating site.