Dating an alcoholic in recovery
Your sobriety is a part of your life and there is no need to be ashamed of the amazing work you have done to get to this point.
Being upfront, if not preemptive, will help you to reduce the chance of a slip up, avoid risky surroundings for dates and weed out the people who may be uncomfortable with dating someone in recovery.
“I’m on an antibiotic” or “I have to get up early for work”), but lies won’t eliminate the possibility of future dates at tempting bars and restaurants.
It is imperative to approach this topic honestly, like you would (hopefully) approach the rest of the relationship.
It is common for addicts to seek instant gratification and experience a transfer of addictions, particularly in the earlier phases.
Take time in sobriety to reset those dopamine receptors.
Most weeks, Saturday nights are spent at 12 step meetings.
In addition, there is an increased risk of relapse with breakups. Could you both indulge a case of the “screw-its” together?
If your partner is in recovery too, it is important to assess their stability as well as yours. Structure and routine are crucial to the recovery process.
Be aware that diving into a new relationship can trigger the same receptors.
Ask yourself if you are really ready to share your time with a significant other, or if you are using relationships as a distraction.
Beginning a new relationship too early can add to those stressors and actually tap into the parts of the brain associated with addiction.