Single parent not dating


13-Mar-2020 01:30

I learned to keep quiet about my dating adventures and largely ignored the so-called ‘advice’, but I soon realised that meeting new men isn’t quite the wall-to-wall fun I’d imagined.

What became immediately clear is that lots of people my age are like Tom – old before their time and acting like we’ve been married for 30 years.

I once crammed four dates with different men into two days, but as my ability to pick interesting and nice men online seemed to be rather lacking, having four bad dates in two days was just too depressing to repeat. But I still think I deserve someone really special.

Although I had no intention of introducing any of these casual dates to my son, the fact I am a parent did make me feel differently about whom I was choosing to spend time with. I’m sure anyone who has tried online dating has come across the married people, or the guys who are actually a foot shorter, 10 years older and 3st heavier than their profile suggests.

Another man I dated for a few months got annoyed that I couldn’t spontaneously go to London for a long weekend because I had Josh.

Sorry, but weekends away for me require months of notice and military-style planning.

Their comments made me feel that my desire for dating and sex meant I wasn’t measuring up as a mum in some way.

But I seriously doubt any single dads ever receive the same type of criticism.

I want to meet for coffees in lovely cafes, enjoy walks along the beach and go on amazing nights out that don’t end until the sun comes up.I’ve been flying solo since my divorce a few years ago, not long after my son Josh*, now five, was born. I was in my early 30s, single for the first time in 10 years and, after the trauma of a failed marriage, was keen to go out, have some fun and meet new people.